A Tribute to “G:” His 25 Life Tips for Your Selling Success

Posted by Diane on Aug 31, 2011

So, who is “G?”  And, what is the importance for remembering him?

“G” is my father.  To his family he is “Bill,” and to his grandchildren he is “G.”  

Rather suddenly, “G” passed away at the ripe old age of 90, in April of 2011.  Needless to say, for the last couple of years, my life has been halted for pursuing my own goals and dreams.  Instead, my time has been consumed with trips to Santa Barbara, to aid my sister, as we watched our Mom succumb to the disease of Alzheimer’s and our Dad fight to keep the home front strong and intact. 

But, finally, fate took its course and had its way.  My father fell asleep one evening and now rests in peace in the beautiful cemetery by the sea, and Mom resides in a wonderful assisted living facility, feeling emotionally safe and physically very healthy at the ripe age of 91.  And I will be forever thankful for all the precious time I had with each of them these past few years.

Now I would like to pay tribute to my wonderful Dad:  His passing reminds me of a great lesson I was given many years ago by a man named Jim. He said, “Diane, when all is said and done, all we can take with us are our memories.  So you might as well make them as rich and meaningful as you can while you are here on this earth.”

I have never forgotten Jim’s words and now they are especially fitting for me.  My father valued success and he loved people that learned the true meaning of success.  Not only did he teach these words of wisdom to all those he loved, but he practiced them daily in his own life.  And now it is time to reflect on some of the beautiful gifts and treasures that my Dad left behind for his children and grandchildren to cherish: 

  • Never ignore the working man; always honor and value your service specialist’s immeasurable (and, many times, hidden) value for your success and wellbeing.

 

  • Look for the diamonds in the rough; they are everywhere and they are worth their weight in gold when you find them.

 

  • Be punctual; even better – be five minutes early.

 

  • Never meet a stranger; develop natural ease to be warm, gracious, and infectious.

 

  • Making a conscious effort to genuinely connect with people is half the battle; the rest is downhill from there.

 

  • Personal development is not a onetime course that you complete; it is a way of life, like a plant forever growing towards the sun.

 

  • Keep your people skills polished; always extend a hand with a firm handshake or caring touch, look your guest in the eye and connect with a warm smile.

 

  • “Be” what you want others to be with you; treat people like you like to be treated.

 

  • Remember the names of people you meet and do business with; knowing people’s names, definitely touches their heart.

 

  • Give your new acquaintance your full and undivided attention; ask caring questions and attentively listen to their answers.

 

  • Ask nothing of others that you are not will in do yourself; have a willing spirit at all times.

 

  • Do your work with happiness and heart; when you make your work fun, your jobs will finish quicker and seem effortless.

 

  • Avoid making excuses at all costs; thinking them up takes energy and nobody wants to hear them anyway.

 

  • Don’t complain; it interferes with getting the job well done.

 

  • Self-esteem comes from your willingness to work hard; challenge yourself and attain your goals.

 

  • Do your work with no fan-fare; do it for yourself and enjoy the result of your efforts – or the “fruits of your labor.”

 

  • Be exceptional at what you do; make yourself stand out in the crowd – be unique from the rest of the pack.

 

  • Be forthright in whatever you do; you may fool some in the short run, but karma will catch up with you in the long run. 

 

  • Success in life is a team effort; learn to relate, value, and connect with all those that surround you.

 

  • Never forgot to appreciate what others do for you; nothing warms the heart more than a kind, “Thank you!”

 

  • See yourself as a gardener for mankind; always be planting seeds of goodwill, generosity, and reciprocity.

 

  • What you give of yourself will come back to you 10-fold; sincerely give of yourself and people will notice and they will respond, respectfully.

 

  • A job is not done until the clean-up is complete; put away all your tools and leave your job site spotless.

 

  • Your accomplishments will give you great satisfaction; and you will feel good about yourself at the end of the day.

 

  • Make everyday count and live each day as though it is your last; and that is exactly what our Dad did – right up until his last day here on this earth!

 

Practicing many of the teachings I have presented to you from my Dad have helped me to develop the self confidence and personality that sets me apart from the crowd.  And now I have the beautiful memory of a lifetime of his teachings and the tons of opportunities to go with him and watch the beams and smiles on people’s faces as he stepped into their world.  

I am so blessed to have had “G” as my Dad! He loved and respected nature, and animals, and people from all walk’s of life.  But what he loved most was the individual that was willing to step out from the pack and find his own true way to his heartfelt success, no matter what the obstacles (for he had many challenges of his own).  And now may you find your success and add these simple gems in to your “toolbox” for your selling success. 

I close this article with a few precious words from my Dad: “Diane, everywhere I go, I am the ‘unforgettable character.’ I make people remember me by my effort to connect and relate with them. I always treat them like they are someone special and I show them I care.  And the people that do the same with me are the exact kind of people I like to do business with and buy from!”   

Thank you, Dad!


Your Attitude is Everything! For Your Selling Success

Posted by Diane on Mar 31, 2011

Successful Tips for Overcoming Your Greatest Obstacle -

Your Attitude

You only have control of two things in your life – your attitude and your behavior. In Stephen R. Covey’s book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, states that if we want to change the situation, we first have to change ourselves. And for us to change ourselves, we first must change our perceptions. “Remember, it is the perceptions you form that control how you see things and where you focus your time and energy.”

The process for human change begins within YOU! You have tremendous potential, worth, and the ability to change. And, of course, you desire good results from your efforts. But you must be willing to do the work and pay the price that success and happiness demand. The only one thing that determines the level of your success and potential, produces the intensity of your efforts, and predicts the quality of your results, is your attitude.

Some valuable basics to for you to practice and lock in:

1. Your attitude will make you or break you – in every aspect of your life!

2. Your attitude determines how you see yourself and how you perceive the world around you.

3. Your self-worth is established by your attitude and your belief system about you – how you see yourself, now and in the future.

4. No person or circumstance can control your attitude – unless you voluntarily surrender that power.

5. No one else can make you angry or happy, successful or unsuccessful. You make yourself what you are, by your choice to surrender yourself to a bad attitude or conquer a great attitude.

6. If you care at all about yourself, then you must accept full responsibility for your own actions and feelings.

7. If you want to receive the rewards and gifts your precious future holds in trust for you, then you must exercise the most important choice given to you as a member of our human race – and this is, maintaining total ownership over your attitude.

8. See your attitude as your free asset – a treasure of great value – and one you must protect dearly, accordingly. And beware of the vandals and thieves among us who will injure your positive attitude or seek to steal it away. Boundaries are necessary and important.

9. Having the right attitude is one of the basics that your success requires. The combination of a sound personal philosophy and a positive attitude about yourself and the world around you gives you a beautiful inner strength and a firm resolve that influences all the other areas of your existence.

10. Best of all, having a good attitude becomes infectious. To educate, I share an excerpt from my book:

“Being in good company is definitely contagious. In my own life, I frequently have people say to me, ‘Wow, you just know how to bring out the best in people.’ ‘ I’m not used to feeling so happy (so nice, so fun or whatever).’  ’Being in your company just seems to bring out the best in me.’  Or they will comment, ‘I just love to be with you.’  ‘I like myself so much better when I am around you.’”

Can you think of any other ways your attitude affects your success – or – how you can have a better affect on your attitude for your success?


Master Your Selling Success for 2011 – One Step At-A-Time

Posted by Diane on Feb 16, 2011

“Winners and losers both do the same basic things in their lives, day in and day out.  Yet the things that winners do take them to the top, while the things losers do take them down and out.  So what is the difference? The difference is their awareness, understanding and use of the Slight Edge in their life and work…The difference that will make all the difference between success and failure, between achieving the quality of life you want and settling for less than you desire and deserve, lies one hundred percent in which of those little, ‘insignificant’ actions you choose to do.”  These excerpts come from Jeff Olson’s book, The Slight Edge: Secrets to a Successful Life.

So what is the key word that all aspiring sales professionals need to pay attention from Jeff Olson’s messages ?  Contrary to popular belief it is the “insignificant” actions you choose to do.  It is the simple little disciplines that are done consistently over time that will add up to be your greatest accomplishments.

Here are twelve things that have a big impact on your selling success.  And they are not listed in any particular order – each has its own significant right:

1. When you, first, make eye contact with each new face you meet, just smile. A warm genuine smile can help you instantly connect with other people and it immediately makes them feel good. Such a small gesture has such a positive influence for their first impression of you. You don’t even need to say a word. So simple, so important, and yet so often, ignored and abused!  Set a number each day for how many times you are going to warmly smile – and surpass it!

2. Eye contact is a very important tool for achieving a good connection with your customer. The value of good eye contact is twofold: First, it’s a very powerful silent communication message about you and your relationship with you. It reflects your level of self-esteem and your comfort level with yourself.  Second, our quality eye contact validates the person to whom we are speaking. When we look them in the eye and give them our undivided attention, we are telling them that they matter. We are honoring and valuing their self-worth.  Practice makes perfect!

3. Don’t think that if you are talking, you’re selling. So many salespeople foolishly believe that if they have a live body captive and they are talking, they’re performing their duties – they are selling. Wrong! Remember, selling is much more about listening.  So how do you challenge yourself to be a better listening and give your undivided attention?  Concentrate on your interpersonal communications skills and identify behaviors that are not serving you well.  Confront them and replace them with more effective deeds.  And practice them daily.

4. Pay attention to the clock and honor time! Whether you have a face-to-face meeting or you’re making a follow-up phone call, make sure you show up or respond when you’re supposed to.  And if you have a client in person or on the phone, and you are running over for time, ask if you can excuse yourself for a few moments to inform your next appointment that you are running a few minutes late.  For, showing up on time is nothing but a practiced commitment and a good habit.   And honoring the time of others is just a beautiful way to treat people like they matter. Everybody wins!

5. Always ask for permission before sharing more information and taking more of your recipient’s time! Asking for your guest’s permission doesn’t mean you are being submissive.  Instead it simply reflects a sign of respect.  Asking for permission to offer a solution or too discuss a product shows that you are honoring your recipients time and his willingness to continue on with you.   Whatever it is you want to do next, whether it be to take a few moment to speak in a cold call, or to schedule your next appointment – ask for permission.  And practice will make perfect!

6. Master the desire, the passion, and the ability to compassionately, reach out to people. Nothing compares to the wonderful, cozy sensations we have when we sense that someone really cares about us. Everybody has a hungry heart. Humans thrive on healthy interpersonal connections – we are meant to be happy, social creatures. And it’s so easy to achieve this bond by kindly extending a personal part of ourselves to others. So, each day make a point of learning more about a client, co-worker, service special, or vendor.  Show that you care about the lives of the people you are in contact with each and every day.  And do even better, tomorrow!

7. Be of service to each person you connect with in a day. If a co-worker is looking for a good doctor, give the name of doctor you love.  If a client is looking for a service you don’t provide, assist him with a lead that may prove valuable him.  If a potential prospect is looking for directions to his next stop, go to your computer and “mapquest” the address he is searching for.  Always see yourself as a resource specialist, facilitator, and a problem solver.  People will like that and they will remember you.  And help even more people tomorrow! The gifts for your efforts will come back to you tenfold!

8. Take the time to say thank you and do it with sending a card. Make it a practice to send a card to all new prospects, existing customers, and people you meet at networking events.  I am a member of SendOutCards.com and I love the easy convenience for organizing contacts and sending out special cards in a jiffy.  So set a goal to send out so many cards a day and exceed it!  Today, very few people take the time to send out thank-you cards so when a prospect, client, or contact gets yours, it will help you stand out.   And don’t forget to thank all the wonderful “little people” that help to make you shine!

9. Treat people with inherent recognition to build quality relationships. And what this means is – doing anything that tells people they are valued and are important is “inherent recognition.”  By working on your behaviors that build trust, respect, and caring for others, you will strengthen the foundation on which your relationships are built.  Imply keep the best interest of your prospects and clients at heart. And don’t forget your coworkers an service specialists. The sincere positive recognition will have a positive and snowballing effect.  And you will build this genuine reputation with one person at-a-time.

10. Grow to love the process. Grow to love the journey. Personally, I have grown to be much gentler and easier with myself, especially in tough times and challenging circumstances. I have realized that every personal challenge I face offers me a golden opportunity to learn and mature with grace. It’s through our struggles our planet keeps offering golden opportunities to show us a better way to inhabit our world. That is simply, how the universe works. Remember, it is your experiences dealing with difficult people and situations that will teach you the most. Learn to see your greatest adversaries as your most powerful teachers!  And pay even more attention, tomorrow!

11. Always be a “breath of fresh air.” Treat your prospects and clients, and all the people you are in contact with, with “Happiness and Heart.” This includes the office receptionist, delivery person, your product vendor, and anyone else you interact with, along the way. Always have fun with your customers and service specialist – simply enjoy life. Always be different than your competition’s sales force. Always see yourself growing and striving to be someone better!  Besides the joy you are giving others, look at the wealth of goodness you are flooding into your own soul. Your sunshine energy not only affects your recipient, it permeates our universe. Think of your actions as a much-needed, healthy new epidemic – your vibrant, radiant behavior will catch on and become contagious. It’s really that simple!  Always see yourself writing up lots of sales. Always treat everyone like they matter!  Then refresh yourself for another successful day, tomorrow!

12. Just remember, good news travel fast, but bad news travels faster.” A long time ago, when I first ventured out into the self employed arena, a dear friend of mine shared these delightful, wise words with me. And through the years I have found great wisdom in this message. Take a moment to ponder what Bill had to say, and see how it fits for you. Before tackling my own spiritual development, I found that it was much easier to blast out with my bad stories and experiences than to tell the good ones. It is said that individuals will tell ten people about a negative situation for every 3-4 persons they tell about a positive outcome. With the odds working against you like that, you must find the necessary tools and means to outperform your competitors.  Make some personal changes and start today!

The value in applying the teachings in Jeff Olson’s book to each of these twelve point, is to acquaint you with the Slight Edge philosophy.  It is to give you a new prospective for you see the world and how you live your life each and everyday.  It is to expose you to the fact that the things you do every single day, the things that don’t look dramatic, that don’t even look like they matter, do matter!  And, that they not make a difference – they make all the difference!


Everybody Has a Hungry Heart!

Posted by Diane on Jul 7, 2010

Master the desire, the passion, and the ability to compassionately, reach out to people. Nothing compares to the wonderful, cozy sensations we have when we sense that someone really cares about us. Everybody has a hungry heart. Humans thrive on healthy interpersonal connections – we are meant to be happy, social creatures. And it’s so easy to achieve this bond by kindly extending a personal part of ourselves to others.

Today, we are living on the fast track in a rapidly changing world. Due to our modern existence, smothered with automation and highly sophisticated technology, making contact with a truly caring and competent service specialist seems to be becoming more and more of a rarity. In our time-pressed society we are all so busy multitasking, just to stay afloat, we have totally lost touch with the precious value for human caring and enjoyable interconnectedness with one-another.

If society could only realize that it takes so little to give so much, and it costs us nothing but our time! Unfortunately feeling starved for time, ourselves, we too, are so overwhelmed and self-absorbed that we totally overlook this modest, yet essential feat. It seems that in our present society, we are all out chasing the wind. Few of us are taking the valuable time to stop and experience the rich sensations of the soft, gentle breeze. How sad!

So what can you do to make a worthwhile contribution and difference in our spinning, out-of-control world? Be different than other salespeople, simply, by slowing your tempo down. Take that extra moment to treat your new prospects as though they are someone special. Take a few moments to tap into them; ask them about themselves and their talents, and listen to their responses with genuine interest. Let them know you are there with them and for them. Treat them the way you would like to be treated! You will be truly amazed with the wondrous results – your efforts will pay off tenfold!

I realize that not everyone is nice and/or receptive, nor do they want to be, and that’s just how the ball bounces. But what in the world do you have to lose by graciously channeling yourself to this euphoric place and seeing where it takes you? Again, this effort costs you nothing. It’s free! It seems almost impossible for me to express in words the blissful feelings you will experience when you realize the beautiful contribution you are gifting to others.

Besides the joy you are giving others, look at the wealth of goodness you are flooding into your own soul. Your sunshine energy not only affects your recipient, it permeates our universe. Think of your actions as a much-needed, healthy new epidemic – your vibrant, radiant behavior will catch on and become contagious. It’s really that simple!

Enjoy this beautiful, soft whisper from the past that I just read this morning: “Blessed are those who can give without remembering and take without forgetting.”  This quote comes from Elizabeth Bibesco, a 20th century English writer. Please lock this precious morsel into your heart and model it in your life! Envision each small contribution you make for the betterment of mankind, to add up and help make our world a better place.

This blog is an excerpt from my book, Just Treat Me Like I Matter: The Heart of Sales.


“Sales,” “Service,” and “Caring” – What Do These Three Simple Words Have in Common?

Posted by Diane on Mar 4, 2010

Just recently I have had the pleasure of meeting a wise and savvy sales profession in our area, and he doesn’t know it yet, but he has inspired me to write this article. His name is Ruben Garcia and he is presently reading my sales training book, Just Treat Me Like I Matter: The Heart of Sales. Yesterday he sent me an email with the following selection:

“In the Swedish language the word sales means ‘service.’  An old saying in sales is ‘People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.’”

Since reading Ruben’s simple, but precious message, a gnawing has started brewing in my soul. As much as I feel I know about “relationship selling” I had not registered the one word that says it all – CARING. So, with my playful heart I said to myself, I am going to write an article and work with the word, C-A-R-I-N-G. First I am going to pick a descriptive word for each letter that will apply to my brand, “Sales Success with Happiness and Heart.” Then I am going into the PDF file for my book and type in each of the six words into my “Search,” and see what comes up from my own text.
So here goes; here are the results:

Compassionate

Master the desire, the passion, and the ability to compassionately, reach out to people. Nothing compares to the wonderful, cozy sensations we have when we sense that someone really cares about us. Everybody has a hungry heart. Humans thrive on healthy interpersonal connections – we are meant to be happy, social creatures. And it’s so easy to achieve this bond by kindly extending a personal part of ourselves to others.

Today, we are living on the fast track in a rapidly changing world. Due to our modern existence, smothered with automation and highly sophisticated technology, making contact with a truly caring and competent service specialist seems to be becoming more and more of a rarity. In our time-pressed society we are all so busy multitasking, just to stay afloat, we have totally lost touch with the precious value for human caring and enjoyable interconnectedness with one-another.

Authentic

Find your authentic self. Unveil to the world your own best hidden secret – you! Whatever you do in life, don’t envy or try mimicking someone else. Discover your own touch of greatness! Believe that everything you need is within you, because it is. Seek and you shall find…

…I have so thoroughly enjoyed discovering my authentic self through my sales and service experiences. I have been able to foster growth and ripen to my own rich potential. On my journey I have been able to discover my own sense of self; I have been endowed with the good fortune of coming face to face with my own ingenuity. The process has taught me to love myself for my good and my bad, my gifted traits and my aggravating flaws. I am not ashamed of anything anymore. I’m just plain ol’ me! I have truly grown to love, respect, and admire the beautiful person God put me here on this earth to be!

Reliable

Pay attention to how often you have gotten yourself into a bind simply because you were ignorant and did not have the necessary information. Over and over again I have realized the value and impact of these words. Experience has taught me that by gathering reliable information, I have been able to make better choices and have more positive outcomes.

The more knowledge we possess, the more we learn about ourselves and our profession – and the more secure and confident we become when we are working with our clients. We gather more excellent tools of our trade, which gives us a greater professional edge and builds our self-esteem. We feel great! We feel successful! We are able to have more fun with our work!

Interesting

My Dad is 87 now and recently retired from his second career. He has always been in professional public service and he loves working with people. Now that he has slowed down a tad and now, has time for me again, we run lots of errands together. I love going with him, because everywhere he goes, he truly treats everybody he meets like they matter. People light up like decorated Christmas trees when they see him coming. If he already knows them, he always greets them by name and asks a pertinent question about their family or an issue in their life. He looks them straight in the eye as he listens and shares with genuine caring.

My Dad always says to me, “Diane, everywhere I go, I am the ‘unforgettable character.’ I make people remember me by my effort to connect and relate with them. I always treat them like they are someone special and I show them I care.”

It is such fun for me to go with him and watch the beams and smiles on people’s faces as he enters their world. I am so blessed to have him as my Dad!

Remain the unforgettable character all the way to the finish. As I have shared many times, I loved when my customer turned to me in a state of awe and confided, “You seem different than other sales- people I have met.” When they had the courage to voice this remark, I knew they were gaining trust and starting to feel comfortable with me. I always loved hearing this delicious message; I took their notice to be such a compliment. I loved interacting with a customer in my own style and fashion, of course, employing many of the techniques I am sharing with you today.

I have continually stressed the value of “uniqueness” throughout this book. But my guess is, discovering and developing this special quality in you, is one of the main reasons you are reading this book – to make yourself better, to make yourself unique from your competition. Practicing many of the teachings I have presented to you have helped me to develop the self confidence and personality that sets me apart from the crowd. I enjoy making myself different from other sales specialists – I find it so delightful and refreshing to be, just me. Get comfortable with yourself, drop some of your cumbersome guards, and find the courage to unveil your unique flavor. Discover the special qualities in you that will separate you from other salespeople – believe me, it won’t be that difficult! See yourself having lots of fun, closing lots of sales!

Nice

Literally, listen to your own heart. If we are not in touch with ourselves, how can we hope to connect or resolve with others? While you are taking your few seconds away from your angry customer to regain your composure, pay attention to your heart rate and other bodily signs that reflect anxiety or stress. Literally breathe into these parts of your body and sensations. If necessary, physically remove yourself and step outside or into another room. Continue to breathe deeply and walk so you can reconnect with your personal power. If you allow yourself to become physically and/or emotionally charged along with your troubled client, you will succumb to trouble. And that is certainly not where you want to be! Maintain your IQ and visualize a win-win outcome!

Otherwise you may end up exactly where you don’t want to be. Linda Kaplan Thaler and Robin Koval, in their book, The Power of Nice, contend: “Just as positive actions are like seeds, rude gestures and remarks are like germs – you may not see the impact they have on you for a while, but they are there, silently infecting you and everyone around you.”

Linda and Robin go on to say: “Even if you never see a person you have treated badly again, even if no one sees or knows of your rudeness or bad behavior, you will know. It will be in your mind and heart when you walk into a meeting and try to convince the people in the room that they should put their faith in you. Because you won’t believe in yourself, you could jeopardize the outcome of a meeting or relationship.”

Such poor behavior allows you to fall into this lose-lose pit!

Genuine

People know when they are with a winner; they can just feel it. This sound bite is a tough one to express in words, because sensing that you’ve found a keeper is truly a gut feeling. How does this relate to sales? Somehow, consumers just know when they have landed with the qualified professional they have been searching for. They sense your genuine value of integrity; they pick up on your poise, your self-confidence, and your sincere interest in them. They know when they have found the right person to fulfill their needs. They know when they have found the person they want to work with. In other words, they recognize that you are there for them, and not yourself.

Please, take these six delightful excerpts to heart and make CARING your motto for your Sales, Service, and Life success! And, if you would like to introduce your choice of words and definitions for CARING I would love to hear from you. Or, if you wish to challenge me with another word in the letters for C-A-R-I-N-G, I will happily search my book and see what comes up. In the meantime I want to thank Ruben again for taking the time to send his inspiring extract that motivated this sharing.


Sharpen Your Basic Tools to Boost Your Sales Success “Sales Success with Happiness and Heart”

Posted by Diane on Jan 24, 2010

The first message I want to share with you is: My motto and philosophy for doing anything and everything, is doing it with “happiness and heart.” Yes, nothing makes things go easier than to do them with a happy, playful attitude and a willing spirit. Even the rewards for accomplishment seem that much more delicious! So let’s dig in and take a look at some ideas for boosting your sales and selling success in the marketplace. And let’s do it with “happiness and heart!”

1. I like to say that there are only two things we have any control over on this earth: our behavior and our attitude. Everything else is entirely out of our hands. So if you do not like what is going on around you and, due to circumstances, you must be where you are at the time, check your own behavior and attitude. Rise above your difficult surroundings, elevate your personal presence, and discover your integrity, balance, and peace.

2. Master the desire, the passion, and the ability to compassionately, reach out to people. Nothing compares to the wonderful, cozy sensations we have when we sense that someone really cares about us.  Everybody has a hungry heart.  Humans thrive on healthy interpersonal connections – we are meant to be happy, social creatures.  And it’s so easy to achieve this bond by kindly extending a personal part of ourselves to others.

3. Treat people right, for, without your clients, you won’t have any business! How often I hear salespeople talk negatively about their clients; I hear them mock them and criticize them. They complain about their guests as though they are an absolute intrusion and inconvenience in their life. Don’t these individuals have a clue as to how detrimental their behavior is for both their professional and financial success?

4. Keep in mind, your current customer is always your number-one concern! The live body standing in front of you needs to take priority over any other work that you have to do, unless it is an absolute emergency. If you do have an emergency arise that can’t wait, honor your live customer and still deem him most important. Meet his eye and very briefly explain your reason for being interrupted or pulled away. Even ask permission before stepping away. Assure him you will be brief, and then get back to him as quickly as possible. When you return to your customer, acknowledge his gracious patience for accepting your interruption. You are performing two very important behaviors: First, you are using good manners.  Second, you are making your customer feel important.

5. Your most difficult customers are your very best teachers. You just have to learn to see these testy guerillas in that light. Experience must have already taught you that when you have a problem with a customer or a situation, you basically have two choices: You can either allow your problem to defeat you, or you can harness your problem and seek out a solution. Do you realize that each time you design a solution you create a valuable new tool for your toolbox? Isn’t that better than coming up empty-handed when you, once again, bump up against that same old aggravating rut?

6. Don’t see your errors as mistakes. See your errors as windows of opportunity to learn. See them as an opportunity to challenge yourself and grow in your own personal and/or professional life. Ask yourself, “What lesson am I supposed to learn here? What is this difficult person trying to teach me?” Find the lessons from your negative experience. If you look hard and long enough, they’re always present; there’s always something to be discovered. And from your lessons learned, you will further your own personal transformation by adding more skillful tools to your toolbox.

Now for the best part: Your commitment for personal growth will boost your sense for self-development and self-esteem. Your new, improved, genial image will be your beautiful gift for working successfully through your negative experience. When you’re willing to do the work, there will always be a reward! Now you can integrate this admirable new quality into your persona and carry it with you the rest of your life.

Cherish your challenging situations. All a problem is, really, is an opportunity to gain enlightenment, expand your personal awareness, and blossom into your own beautiful birthright. Knowledge is power!

7. Be personal and be enthusiastic with your customers. Talk and act passionately about your products and your services. Put your heart into your presentation. As I’ve said before, if some of these behaviors are foreign to your personality, practice in front of the mirror or role play with a coworker to make it more demonstrative and fun. An enthusiastic and demonstrative personality is very contagious! Be spunky, be perky!

8. The easiest and best intention you can program for yourself is, simply, be nice. It pays to be nice, and it costs you absolutely nothing. That is all there is to it. Try it on for size, set it into your automatic pilot program, and live “nice” every single day of your life. Choosing to be nice is a behavior and it is a habit. And, Stephen Covey states in his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, it takes 30 days to change a habit.

9. Hand in hand with personal etiquette goes gracious acknowledgment. Along with being automatically nice, be automatically appreciative. And by that I don’t mean a misappropriated and faked, “Thank-you.” I mean appropriate, sincere appreciation. Nothing is more condescending than not to be valued when you should be, nor, to be falsely rewarded for manipulative or insincere reasons. Learn the healthy workings of this very important concept and make healthy recognition your habit.

Practicing these behaviors requires you to pull your head out of the sand, to be awake and present. It involves you stepping outside yourself and facing the fact that you are only one little piece of the puzzle. Life is much more than just about, you – it’s about, teamwork, cooperation, and appreciation. Open your eyes and pay better attention; embrace the value for the team.

Take the time to personally acknowledge and thank the service people who work behind you, your coworkers, and employees (employers, too). Thank people with special phone calls, thank you notes, cards, and gifts. Reward people for their kindness and goodness. Do your part to turn this world around and make it a better place to be. For life to flourish, it takes a village!

10. And, of major importance: Each step you take with your customer is not a step towards the close. Instead, each step is a vital function for the process of the close! Your greatest reward for mastering the world of sales: You can apply your sales skills to all arenas of your life! And yes, with each word I write, with each sentence and sound bite I formulate, I am devoutly practicing these same empowering skills with you. I am letting you know, you have valuable worth – you matter!

So take some of your precious time to sharpen your tools in these ten basics. You can learn all the fancy jargon and terminology in the world, you can know more about your products than anyone else in your field. But, unless you genuinely connect and relate with your prospects you will only have a very slim chance of making the sale.

And yes, people know when they are with a winner; they can just feel it. This little golden nugget is a tough one to express in words, because sensing that you’ve found a keeper is truly a gut feeling. Somehow, consumers just know when they have landed with the qualified sales professional they have been searching for. They sense your genuine value of integrity; they pick up on your poise, your self-confidence, and your sincere interest in them. They know when they have found the right person to fulfill their needs. They know when they have found the person they want to work with. In other words, they recognize that you are there for them, and not yourself. And they will want to do their business with you!


Sincere Tips for Your Success in the Workplace by Diane Marie Pinkard

Posted by Diane on Jan 24, 2010

We are living in a time where people are very busy! They are hurrying from here to there and there to here, and back again and again. It almost feels like our civilization is going crazy. And if people do not find a way to slow down and get genuinely connected, first with them themselves, then with each other, I sincerely believe we are going to extinct ourselves.

I sincerely believe that “awareness” is the key for our success and our survival. And the best way to become aware is to be present in the moment. We must pay attention to the “now” and become an observer of our own life. We must become aware of the control our egos want to posses in order to control and run our lives. Instead, we must step outside of ourselves and care about the wellbeing of others. Two heads are better than one.

Yes, we are social creatures by nature. We must encourage collaboration so we can learn to work with others. And there is nothing more exciting and rewarding than genuinely relating and connecting with others. The following list of simple tools is a great resource to print out for you to read from time to time, and, also, to share with others. You might like to enlarge the print and post it in a place that all can see.

· Be what you want others to be with you. Or simply put:
Treat others the way you would like to be treated.

· Acknowledge and be aware of what others are communicating with you – verbally and non-verbally. You were given two ears and one mouth. Use them proportionately!

· Pay attention to body language. Learn to read people’s silent messages of communication. More often their actions are speaking louder than their words. I call this, listening with your third ear.

· Good eye contact is of utmost importance for achieving a rich connection for ALL your exchanges! Maintain good eye contact with your customers when they are talking. Meeting their eye will keep your mind from wandering and will validate their confidence that you care.

· Welcome each other’s views. “None of us is as good as all of us.” This quote comes from Ray Kroc, the founder of McDonald’s. It can be very freeing to respect and honor each other’s differences.

· Show respect for one another. The more attention you pay to understanding one another’s nature, the more harmony you will create for yourself and them. And you will discover how much you have in common. You will be able to successfully share ideas and relate to one another.

· Straight-up, honest communication is the key element for building trust in your relationships and for expressing feelings and concerns, and getting things out into the open. For me, I have experienced that speaking out honestly is the hardest lesson I have had to learn. But, having the courage to master this challenge has been the most freeing and empowering step I have ever taken for living a richer life!

· Communicate effectively.
Develop the courage to speak up and speak out. When you speak up, maintain a positive attitude and speak in positive sentences and structure. Nothing paints a better portrait of you, then your gracious ability to speak from an authentic, solid place. You have a right to your opinions if you have an issue. But, if your communication is not working, do not resort to pouting, silence, slamming items down, or sarcasm. Stop, regroup and take a few deep breaths, even acknowledge that you are struggling with your words. Then pull up your boot straps and try again.

· Do not offend others! If you cannot say something nice or pleasant, refrain from saying anything at all. No sarcasm, cynicism, or derogatory remarks! Keep in mind that it’s important to remain respectful of the other person, even if you don’t like their actions. Be patient, interpret, and rephrase thoughts. Read between the lines of what is being said. You can help them by trying to interpret what they mean. A lot of people have a hard time expressing themselves. You can rephrase and repeat what is being said to you, back to those who are speaking. This insures not only that you understand what they are saying, but more importantly, what they mean. And, that you care.

· Know the difference between sympathy and empathy. Sympathy is feeling badly for someone. Empathy includes the quality or process of entering fully, through imagination, into another’s feelings or motives.” In the fullest sense, empathy is putting yourself in someone else’s shoes so that you really understand and feel his pain, fear, or his joys. Practice empathy.

· Listen with heart and caring. Listening is the key. Nothing sooths the heart and warms the soul than being genuinely listened to. The best way to be remembered is not for what you say, but for being a caring listener. Believe me. It works!

· Remember that the goal of effective communication skills should be a mutual understanding and finding a solution that pleases both parties, not “winning” the argument or “being right”. It is a lonely world when you fight to be right. But it is bright and sunny day when all parties get to shine

· Use good diction and volume. Speak clearly and distinctly and loud enough to be heard (but not too loud to overpower those around you). So many are insensitive to how they are relating and affecting others. Step outside of yourself and meta-view these qualities in you. They are so important.

· Use awareness in your workspace. Honor the space of others for noise and distance – not too loud and not too soft. Do not crowd one another (whether standing or sitting) – honor the 18” of personal space. And honor a respectable distance from people working at desks and at work stations.

· Always be thoughtful and courteous of co-workers. See each member of the team to be an important and valuable link in the chain. We are not meant to be “islands” and it unacceptable to isolate individuals for their behaviors, nor their beliefs. Use and practice all of the items addressed in this article and find ways to welcome them, not shun them. See sharing your ideas as a personal effort to relate to theirs.

· Build trust and respect with your teammates. Honest, caring communication is the key. Yes, trust is one of the most difficult characteristics for teammates to develop. And that is because human nature has many idiosyncrasies that confuse and scare people. So many people come from a place of manipulation, poor self-esteem, “hidden agendas,” and “control dramas,” that team members feel insecure and do not know what to think. Let alone how to act.

· If you have an issue with a coworker, discuss your issue in private. Do not exchange any disrespectful words or digs in front of customers or the general public. There is nothing that tears down the value of an individual or the strength of your organization more than exchanging hurtful, derogatory remarks in front of other employees or customers.

· Do not talk negatively about your clients or your coworkers. Have fun with both, but not at anyone’s expense. Be responsible for your behavior and your choices, be accountable for your actions. Nothing poisons the workplace more than a bad seed that is intentionally spreading ill will.

· Keep very accurate, detailed, and complete log sheets
on all work and job update forms – like you are telling a story, and chapter by chapter, it is unfolding and evolving. That way, if you are not there another team member can pick up the paperwork and move forward. And no one is burdened with finding the “missing pieces.” Think of it as, you are writing a story! And if you were to never come back, someone else could pick up your work and move forward without hassle. And, please, take pride in this step. Do not look at it as an annoying burden. You are fulfilling such a vital role for keeping the strong train vigorously running on its tracts, with or without you.

I have had such fun putting this list together. I realize that I could go on and on, but I have reached the length I want this article to be. I hope you enjoy it and decide to print it up as a valuable resource for your workplace. And, I would love to hear from you with anything you would like to add.

Thank you! Diane

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