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Diane is Starting to Reflect on Her Life

Posted by Diane on Jan 7, 2016

I decided to make a portion of my 2015 Christmas letter into a blog.  For I found the subject matter to be perfect for a 2016 New Years plan for anyone that wants to improve their life. I turned 70 in December, 2015 and it has made me start to realize that I’m really into the second half of my life now.  (Even though I don’t feel like it.)  And it’s time to start giving more back.  Please enjoy!

It’s amazing how fast time flies and I must say, “Much water has profusely flowed under my bridge!”  And in this journey  I am constantly trying to figure out, “What makes people tick?”  It is certainly my heartfelt passion to examine.  (Along with the topic of “love.”)   So from my philosophical soul I am going to pass on some of my pearls of wisdom that I have collected and practice “as I walk along in my moccasins.”  I am going to make this list to have 21 items in memory of how ! couldn’t wait to be 21 years old!   (Wow! That’s a long time ago – 1966):

  • 70 is NOT old!!!
  • Stay physically and spiritually active; stay young at heart!
  • Cherish your body; good health is a gift and a blessing.
  • Make every day a better day for all those you encounter;  be “sunshine” and/or “a breath of fresh air” to everybody you talk to or cross on your daily path.
  • Complete all your responsibilities, work, chores, and activates as though they each are “a labor of love.”
  • Practice and honor honesty, self-respect, and integrity in yourself and all your affairs  with others; don’t gossip or manipulate.
  • Don’t ever let people mistreat or abuse your dear and precious heart; set boundaries!
  • Learn to love yourself, even when others can’t love you the way you wished they could.  Yes, you can do this!
  • Then love everyone (you don’t have to like them, though), despite themselves: their poor choice of actions, words and behaviors.
  • Treat people with dignity, respect, and kindness; don’t ever burn your bridges.
  • Don’t take other people’s poor words and bad actions personally; their behavior is much much more about them – not you!
  • Always forgive yourself and all those that you love; find compassion and empathy, for we are all just doing our best!  Never strive for perfection – it doesn’t exist.
  • Travel light in your heart, dump all the control dramas, emotional baggage, pain,  and suffering.  It’s a waste of time and effort!
  • Laugh at yourself; laugh and cry with others.  Feel your feelings.
  • When you want to complain, stop yourself in your tracks; and find gratitude.  And share it with others.
  • Count your blessings because you have many more than you may be thinking.
  • Never give up on your hopes and dreams;  for you never know what tomorrow will bring.  (That’s why God made the world round – so you couldn’t see what was coming.)
  • Live each day to the fullest and live it as though it is your last.
  • Treat people exactly as you would like to be remembered; give unconditionally, receive graciously.  (See yourself as if  you are writing your own obituary or epitaph.)
  • Friends and loved ones should never be ignored nor forgotten ( Oh no -my biggest downfall).
  • When we leave this earth all we can take with us are our memories.

You can do many different things with this list:  You can print out the list and   make a point of concentrating on one of these topics each week.  Then you can tailor each item in a learning format and/or lesson plan that works best for you. You can set goals for your change, then have a reward picked out for when you achieve the results you want.  Or you can rate yourself from 1 – 10 to see how you are  progressing with each one of these points.  Then you can journal your growth and progress.   And retest yourself at the end of the 21 weeks, the end of the 2016, or  whatever timeframe you would like to use.  Remember: Practice brings change – but you will never be perfect. 

The key for achieving your success is your awareness.  Be your own “fly on the wall,” and constantly be observing your behavior.  Pay attention to your actions and reactions and especially the reactions of others.  Just applying this one simple discipline can bring delightful rewards and remarkable results.

Lastly, take to heart the message from this cute little ditty:  “When we make changes in ourselves inch by inch, it’s a cinch.  When we try to change yard by yard, it’s very hard!”  Be soft, kind, and patient with yourself!

Thank you for reading!  Diane

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